A FIGHT Breaks Out!
Need a Culture Boost?: Building Extraordinary and Adaptive Cultures Course Available Now!
Are you a leader, consultant, coach or trainer? Join Belongify and get certified!
What It’s About: A sports report popped up on my newsfeed about how a recent Calgary Flames practice became feisty. There were reports of teammates pushing and shoving each other, a player smashing his stick on the crossbar of the goal, and other energetic activity. Of course, it’s getting to be playoff time in the NHL, and tension is increasing. It’s not uncommon to see peer-to-peer pressure boil over.
While this is a little more visible in professional sports, peer conflict is a regular occurance in the world of work. A healthy team has a constructive level of conflict. When it turns into lingering, personal hostility, the situation can rapidly move from functional to dysfunctional.
So What?: Not everyone is going to like each other on teams. It’s natural that we are more attracted to some than others. However, in order for teams to be more effective, authenticity, acceptance and accountability must transcend personal likes. So when conflict between folks emerges, both peers and the leader need to contribute forward, positive resolutions. The most important consideration is to NOT let it fester. Hopefully things quickly work out, and self aware combatants sort through it on their own. When it doesn’t, both peers and the leader must act to achieve a solution.
Now What?: If you are a peer, be understanding, compassionate and offer to help without taking sides. It’s important that you let people know that you care about fixes, and that infighting has consequences to the entire team. If you’re the leader, ideally you can facilitate the expectation that those in disagreement can work it out themselves. Very often they can, especially when they know you expect them to do so. What is not helpful to anyone is when the matter becomes personal and a distraction to team effectiveness. When that happens, the leader must more directly intervene. If it can’t be resolved, then the “nuclear option” is to remove and replace the participants. Fortunately, when individual and team expectations regarding collaboration, and the idea that people can attack processes, problems and situations but NEVER each other, the removal of individuals rarely is required.
Think about using the STAR technique to guide the resolution:
S: Describe the situation.
T: Agree on the targets.
A: Jointly determine action.
R: Determine what results look like.
P.S., Just because people are working virtually, don’t assume there isn't conflict. It just looks and feels differently on a platform.
Think Big, Start Small, Act Now,
- Lorne
One Millennial View: I’ve come to recognize that one of the hardest, perhaps most overlooked and unintended consequences of working remotely, is we can no longer see some otherwise obvious puzzle pieces in an office setting. For example: You don’t overhear things anymore, what others are concentrating on/prioritizing, gauge energy levels/satisfaction of team members, or just bounce back ideas in real time. Now, to find out requires another distracting task, another email, another text, another meeting, another “PING!” instead of that former, quick, in-person check-in. That makes things tough. However, in order to limit unintended conflict, we’ll have to do our best to work through that obstacle.
- Garrett
Edited and published by Garrett Rubis.
Search Blog Posts:
Categories
Month
- November 2024
- October 2024
- September 2024
- August 2024
- July 2024
- June 2024
- May 2024
- April 2024
- March 2024
- February 2024
- January 2024
- December 2023
- November 2023
- October 2023
- September 2023
- August 2023
- July 2023
- June 2023
- May 2023
- April 2023
- March 2023
- February 2023
- January 2023
- December 2022
- November 2022
- October 2022
- September 2022
- August 2022
- July 2022
- June 2022
- May 2022
- April 2022
- March 2022
- February 2022
- January 2022
- December 2021
- November 2021
- October 2021
- September 2021
- August 2021
- July 2021
- June 2021
- May 2021
- April 2021
- March 2021
- February 2021
- January 2021
- December 2020
- November 2020
- October 2020
- September 2020
- August 2020
- July 2020
- June 2020
- May 2020
- April 2020
- March 2020
- February 2020
- January 2020
- December 2019
- November 2019
- October 2019
- September 2019